You are Designed for Solitude
If like me you're an empath, and perhaps even if you're not? It's very easy to be caught in the zone of being supportive and being community aware without prioritising first your own needs and creative spark. Spending time reading post after post of beautiful content from other coach friends that isn't actually there first and foremost for YOU because you're not their intended client. Watching videos and being part of conversations that whilst well intentioned aren't actually serving your mission and aren't the BEST use of your time. Surrounding yourself with the highlight reels and mirror image revelations of reverent, cool and inspiring people that don't actual elevate you toward your goals. Here's an old newsflash: Social Media doesn't actually serve everybody. And living online for everyone around you is unlikely to be doing any good - perhaps with the exception of inflating the external validation and vanity metrics of your circle. So - why do we do it? - this is a conversation I've had lately with a number of online biz babes. Because we don't have to think as much, we don't have to try as hard and, because we feel gratification when we're part of the collective. Being an all enduring good yes-girl member of the community takes up precious time, energy and space that generally gets pulled from the creative guru within you. The one that sometimes wants to ditch the world and live in a hut in the middle of nowhere with lots of wine and books and no fucking wifi so you don't have to deal with anyone else. For example. Being supportive and sharing the love IS important for half decent humans. Being surrounded by inspiring people IS important. Being part of a kickass amazing community IS important. I love mine! BUT - you weren't designed to be in that shared space 24/7 365 days of the year. That's what social media does if we don't take breaks, filter our feeds and get really particular about how we spend our time there. Imagine if you took social media out of the equation and went back to the basics of being part of a tribe. Do you think it'd be normal to be with and surrounded by everyone constantly? To never have solitude in your hut? Or sit in silence tending to your own needs or activities? Would it be expected for you to run around and congratulate, show love and give a thumbs up to every single person for every achievement of their day? As an adult, would you sit and listen to and observe every other tribe members plans, intentions, visions and daily rituals from the crack of dawn until dusk before starting your own? No. So why do we live like this online? Become aware and then break the cycle. Remove yourself from the equation if need be. Or edit out who you're following and spending time on. Even if they're the most incredible gurus in the world. If they're not inspiring you to switch off your social scrolling and take action - they're not elevating you. Remember this. Your mission on earth is not to be the number one fan of everybody else.
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