Once upon a time we were told to be good kids and befriend everyone. Everyone was worthy of friendship, everyone was deserving, there were no boundaries, there were no restrictions, there were no standards. If you happened to be in the right place at the right time, liked a similar hobby, went to the same school, lived in the same court or were the child of family friends then boom - you qualified and were eligible even if neither or you necessarily elevated the other and may not have been the best person for one another.
I have had so many conversations these days around the subject of shedding misaligned relationships and the issue of people not being able to show up authentically as themselves for fear of what existing connections will say > How they will be judged for evolving. How they will be mocked for changing. How they will be shunned for speaking up and laying out their new business, new processes, new life on the table.
If you’re currently in this mindset here’s something you might like to consider - if someone in your space is not going to accept you for who you are - maybe you were actually never meant to be friends or maybe it simply isn’t a healthy friendship anymore. And that's ok!
There are billions of people in the world but we each only have the energy and time for a handful of people and weren’t designed to suit every single person in the world anyway.
You have a unique beautiful flavour of human in the way you see the world and what you have to offer. Not everyone is going to align with that or you and they don’t have to. After all, what a boring world it would be if we were all the same and had no contrasting perspectives.
So remember, those around you get to elevate, nourish and feed your soul not keep you in a box or restrict you. And friends should encourage you to be you without hesitation and wholeheartedly support and love you through the process.
This is what we should be allowing for and I can tell you - it’s the most beautiful thing in the world to be surrounded by people you genuinely love and who love you in return.
If reading this has made you realise that the opposite is true of those in your inner circle, it's time shed some skins, create distance and move on - your future soul sisters are waiting in the wings, I guarantee you.
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